But as much as I love the unbelievably horrible auditions that they air -- seriously, what are some of those people thinking?? -- I had a huge problem with an incident that aired on the Wednesday night episode.
There was a 19 year old
He was there with his father and they were showing the set of necklaces that they were wearing. The 19 year old had a chain with a key on it and his father was wearing the other chain with a heart on it. There was a space missing in the heart; a space for the key to fit. The plan is that on this guy's wedding day, his dad will give the bride the heart necklace.
And on this special day, this husband and wife will share their very first kiss.
Sounds sweet, doesn't it? Okay, and maybe a bit cheesy. But I'm a firm believer in saving yourself for marriage -- at least as far as sex goes. Kissing is a bit different...but that's just my opinion. Obviously this guy felt otherwise. Anyway, this post isn't really about my beliefs on that topic. It's about how this guy was treated on the show for his moral stand.
Basically he was mocked for it.
First, the show made a mockery of him by how they portrayed what him and his dad were saying about the necklaces. They had cheesy love song music playing in the background and doing certain things in slow motion -- like having him and his dad match up the key with the heart. You could just tell that they were making fun of the whole situation. That already didn't sit well with me.
But it got worse.
As he headed into the audition room, the judges asked him a bit about himself and he began to tell them the same thing -- that he had never kissed a girl.
As this is a fairly abnormal thing, the judges were of course curious and they asked him why not? So he responded again by saying that he was saving his first kiss for his wedding day.
I can't remember Randy and Paula's reaction, but Simon's reaction couldn't have been clearer. He looked at this guy like he had completely lost his marbles. It was almost as if he looked disgusted.
Anyway, so this guy went on to sing and I thought he did a pretty good job. I would've given him his golden ticket to send him on to Hollywood. But none of the 3 judges put him through. And I had to wonder to myself if his moral stance on intimacy was part of the reason.
That's not what really bothered me though, since obviously I don't know if that's the reason. There have been other singers who I have thought did really well and they didn't put through. And there have also been singers who I thought did not do well enough, yet they did get put through.
My biggest problem was Randy's final comment to him as he left the audition room. After getting his negative response from all of the judges, he asked the simple question, "Do you have any advice for me?"
Randy Jackson looked at him, almost condescending-like and said "Yeah...kiss some girls."
And that was it.
I was thoroughly annoyed and bothered by this televised incident, and I still am several days later. I'm not saying that they should've all been in awe of his strength to hold off on his teenage raging hormones, or that they should've given him a standing ovation or anything like that (although I would've).
But to ridicule him like they did? I thought that was totally unnecessary.
And maybe I'm over-reacting, or reading too much into it. But with the way the world is today, with kids getting into sex at earlier and earlier ages, we should applaud those who make the decision to wait until marriage. I know it's getting more and more uncommon but it bothers me that it's getting to the point where it seems to be weird -- and even wrong -- for someone to actually decide to wait for their future spouse.
As a mother of two girls, I can only pray that they will be surrounded by friends and companions who have morals as strong as this young man.
And that they will be able to hold their head high, as this young man did, if they are the only ones in their school -- or seemingly the whole world -- who have never been kissed.