Wednesday, April 30, 2008

the big debate: your help required

After I made my blog private last month, it didn't last very long before I re-opened it to any readers. Several of you have been inquiring as to why I changed my mind.

What can I say? I just can't decide what to do!!

On one hand, I love the security of having it privitized. I know who is reading my thoughts and viewing my pictures. It gives me a sense of control. I know there are no unwelcome lurkers silently hovering around (and yes, there are such things as welcome lurkers -- those who are innocently reading just because they enjoy what I have to say, not because they have any ulterior motives).

But on the other hand, I keep thinking of all of the wonderful friendships I have made via blogging: Pam, Melanie, Leeann and HolleeAnn to name just a few. If I close my blog off, what other future friendships will I be missing out on?

So I am left with that and don't know how to proceed from here. This is where you can come in. I'm really looking for opinions. I will also put a poll on my side bar, but that's just for a general idea...I'd still love to hear your actual opinions -- including reasons for or against. And if you don't feel comfortable leaving your opinions in the comment section for everybody to read, please drop me an email to give me your thoughts.

I'm not saying I will necessarily go with the majority -- but I would really appreciate any help I can get in guiding me to my final decision.

17 comments:

Melanie said...

I had a time where I had the same debate you are having. I decided that I would continue to blog openly but that I would be very careful about what I said. I try to make sure the only thing people know about me is that I live in the US. I used to talk about things we did in the area we live in and now I do not ever do that. I think as long as you are careful about what you post- obviously no last names or exact locations of where you live that you are safe. You're probably more likely to run into some weirdo at the park or the store than on your mommy blog.

Mamarazzi said...

darlin' i go back and forth too, like ALL the time. but i decided the reward outweighted the possible risk. i know where my kid is at all times. i don't tell people where we live other than we are in California. and my husband is a cop...it makes me feel safer. AND even though the current name of our blog is TheVasquez3 it is changing, and it's not Jordan's last name anyway...sooooo. for me, right now...and i could most def change my mind, i am keeping things open. like you said you would not have met me (thanks for the shout out) and i would not have met FABULOUS you.

the blogspehere is HUGE, need an example? click that next blog thing up there...keep clicking. i bet if you clicked for a few hours you would not only find more people from other countries you may NEVER click over to your neighbor who may have a blog too but you don't know it.

just a few thoughts...good luck on a decision...either way, you are good by me and i WILL be back!

Carl & Kathy said...

Well, I think that you've taken precautions so that you aren't giving personal information about yourself. And I think Melanie is right, you are more likely to meet some weirdo at the store then on the internet.

And frankly there are people out there that read my blog that I know if I privatized and then sent invitations, they probably wouldn't get around to responding to the invitation. And how are they suppose to keep tabs on us if they never read?

So there's my thoughts...

Pam said...

I know this isn't going to help, but you need to do what feels best to you. If you feel okay having your blog public, then keep it that way. you know you don't offer up exact locations or last names. So you are probably okay. It is hard to think that others can be doing creepy things....but the reality is that can happen anywhere you go (I hate to think about that!)- not just on a blog. But if you feel safer having it private- then that is what is best. no one can fault you for doing what is best for your family. Good luck making your decision.

ValleyGirl said...
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ValleyGirl said...

You could leave it open but set it so that it doesn't allow anonymous comments. That way, if people want to leave a comment, they have to leave a sign-in name of some sort, which generally means they can then be contacted.

This won't stop evil lurkers, but it will prevent people from commenting without leaving their names.

Louise said...

Hey there I did the same thing and then took it off of being private because of the friendships I developed through blogging and people were asking about reading my blog.
The other people above gave good advice no sense in me repeating!

Louise said...

Hey there I did the same thing and then took it off of being private because of the friendships I developed through blogging and people were asking about reading my blog.
The other people above gave good advice no sense in me repeating!

Xandra said...

I truly enjoy meeting new people through blogging, and I just try to keep the information that I give as general as possible. No last names, I don't say exactly where I live, no pictures of my son in a shirt displaying our local HS football team, etc. I think that if you are careful, you can protect your identity and security.

I think that if your purpose in blogging is strictly for updating close friends and family, then privatizing your blog is the way to go. You can then feel free to post as much information as they can handle! LOL!

Otherwise, I think there are safe ways to blog publically and you have the added benefit of meeting some really great people along the way!

Xandra

Jamie said...

I really enjoy having my blog private, though I do wonder who is all missing out now, people who were too shy to ask for permission to keep reading. But I like being able to post about activities I might be doing in my particular area that may give away where I live, or feeling more free to talk about my feelings because I know exactly who is reading. Though I still don't post exactly who and where I am, just in case of hackers (not like they're all that interested in my little site!)

That is purely my opinion, and don't think one way is right or wrong.

Erin said...

i think a lot of people have this debate with themselves. i forget whose blog it was on but someone did some posts that were password protected. so maybe if there was some stuff u don't want the whole world to know u could do that. i don't know how to do that but i guess it would be worth looking into if there were some concerns! good luck with ur decision.

Kristen said...

That's a tough one. I've considered the same thing before but opted against it just because it is so restrictive. That's where sitemeter comes in and not allowing anonymous commenters. ;-) I guess I would say whatever makes you most comfortable! :-)

Tausha said...

well-I found your blog from Leeann and i really enjoy reading it. I guess you could call me a lurker-but one of the good kind-reading for enjoyment. So-If my vote really matters-I would have never found you if you were private so-i think that I am pretty cool and I really like Leeann-so maybe we too can be friends.
I wondered what to do with the same problem as you-i changed all my kids names to numbers and leave out anything of a private nature-it makes me feel a whole lot safer from those BAD lurkers.
Hope I could help with the decision-come on over and say Hello at my blog.

Roo said...

hey andrea...
this is a tough issue especially when you are a mama hen. i think ultimately you have to be led by your heart....i think it's important to ask God where and how He would like you to blog and how He would like it to look. for some that may be private and for others public but you will know -- in the deepest part of your heart -- where the correct place in bloggerlife is for you to live.

and what your blog is supose to look like.

Heather said...

I say go with your gut. I am too much of an extrovert and LOVE the bloggy friendship to consider going private. It's your blog, so you make the decision that you can live with. Don't worry about who might be offended, etc, etc. Trust your instincts.

wfbdoglover said...

I do agree with your decision, but appreciate you including me in your private phase of your blog. I wouldn't of have such interesting reading these past few weeks.

Sharon Brumfield said...

I am glad I stopped to read your blogaversary post--I did not realize you were no longer private.
I have resubscribed and now I can actually see when you do a new post.
Before I had to remember to go to my bookmarks---I know lazy--but this makes it so much easier to run down the list of new posts.