Sunday, September 11, 2011

tell me...HOW?!

When you put yourself out there - WAY out there - and feel like you're invisible...how do you get over that?

When you constantly feel like others are better than you and you can not possibly compare...how do you snap out of it?

When you don't get the responses you were expecting and hoping for...how do you stop yourself from feeling hurt and disappointed?

When you feel like some people just don't like you (and you can't figure out the reason)...how do you stop yourself from caring?

When you wake up every morning knowing you have to go through it all yet again...how do you drag yourself out of bed and do more than simply go through the motions?

4 comments:

The Brandt Family said...

Andrea, not sure what is going on in your life or in your mind & heart but I can relate with the one point about how you can't figure out why people don't like you.
I am there right now and not sure what to do. The scary thing is, is that they are family, I love them & care about them.
(((HUGS))) to you today!

Anonymous said...

I think if we knew each other in real life we would be kindred spirits, the more I read (and have read back on), the more I see how much we share the same feelings, concerns and vision. And oh how I love labels too :)

With that said, I too struggle with what you wrote and after a lot of talking to "professionals", reading and talking to others about my struggles, I have come to realize that I have been looking for someone else to fill a void that I have inside of myself. I believe I have been seeking approval from others for years (even though I say and act like I don't care what others think of me, it's the complete opposite it seems). It's hard to be an individual in this follower type world and to stick to your convictions without falling prey to going with the flow to gain acceptance. I believe when people feel they are backed by at least one person in their life, it allows them to truly flex their wings and be who they really are, knowing if they fall that person is there to back them up. I know I don't have that in anyone so I attribute my feelings to that lack of connection. Do you feel that way?

Perhaps take some time to reflect what it is you think you are looking for from others? Have you tried to align yourself with people who truly DO care and show it through their actions not just their words? There are a lot of people in this world who take advantage of nice people, be cautious but don't hole up or you could miss the opportunity to meet another beautiful soul. When people show you who they really are, believe them! The fact that you exist (and that I trust you are who you portray yourself to be on your blog via your candidness and honesty) tells me there ARE still good people out there. Maybe all it will take for you to feel seen is for YOU to recognize that you ARE a good person and that you need to nurture your soul during these times when you feel alone in the world. Do things that make you happy! If today all you are able to muster up is the energy to organize your pantry, do it if that lifts your spirit! Or windex your car windows (I always forget to do this and I know it would make me happy, lol). Meditate or have quiet time with God. Connect with nature, pick yourself some flowers, watch the birds. Be the strong woman you know you are and want to model for your girls.

Have we all been duped into thinking there is some divine happiness that we need to achieve with a prestigious job, large group of "friends", the perfect house, fancy car etc?

If our home burns down, we lose our job and our friends move away, we are left with ourself. If we aren't settled in our soul, what are we left with? That is the best place we can start and I believe goodness will follow once we are taking good care of ourself. Fill your tank up first, then allow others to help it overflow!

Off my soap box now and off to find something to windex ;) Hope you find peace today.

From your internet friend who thinks you rock :)

Jenn said...

Love you!

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